Disclaimer: The views expressed in this post do not bear any resemblance to the author's personal experiences.
Come, the month of August and the Indian Tri colors are seen everywhere. It is also the month of Janmashtami, with govindaas filling every Gulli of Mumbai, and breaking the tallest Handi is quite an achievement in itself.
But other than these two festivals, there is one other 'major' one, termed Rakhi [no not the dudette with Mika] this one is - Raksha Bandhan, the bond of love between bhaiyya and behna..
I fully endorse the festival as my 'sisters’ regularly send the rakhis by post and I dutifully adorn the same. Rakhis have been used since time immemorial as the symbol of protection awarded by the brothers to their siblings of the opposite gender. For me, they also served as the ornaments on my shoulder for the role of “Lord Krishna” that I portrayed in one of the fancy dress competitions loooooong ago.
Coming to talk of sisters, I never have had any of my own, and so, in standard I, when there was an examination question - “How many sisters do you have?”,I innocently counted up all my first cousins and wrote 10 as the answer..The teacher, gave my mom a “Why do you want to set up a cricket team?” look when she came to collect my report card, and till date my Mom doesn’t know why.
By class 6, the norms were a little different and girls spoke to ‘boys’ only under two considerations:
One, you need to be the class topper, so that they can borrow your notes
Or, you need to be their Rakhi Bhaiyyas so that they are sure of your intentions.
Oh My God, it took me a couple of years after that to get educated about the world and its practices, and till then I continued to remain under the impression that the number of Rakhis on one’s hand were directly proportional to the chivalry that one possessed, very much akin to the Rajput Queens who tied them on the hands of the invaders to save their husbands from being taken prisoners, as taught to us during History lessons.
I even went distributing hair clips (mom’s selection) and a Cadbury’s Relish chocolate to my dear sisters as their rightful gifts. And 5 bucks per head was quite an expensive proposition in the year 1994, for a class 6 student.
Soon it was class 10, and the number of rakhis being tied around guys’ wrists went down, as also the number of bhaiyyas wanting to flaunt the same, though most mothers continued to doubt their sons except when their “rakhi sisters” called up home.
In fact as we moved to college, Raksha Bandhan happened to be declared an informal yet mandatory holiday for the guys gang.
Engineering was quite a different story. I knew girls who ran after guys who they thought were behind them and entangled them in the bond of brotherly love to crush their only hope of passing semester exams. The transformation of the red roses on the day of the college fest to yellow on friendship day and then gradually to white coupled with an Aarti Thali on Raksha Bandhan, was quite traumatic for a few fellow friends.
I’ve also heard of a Management school in Chennai where guys and girls refer to each other as “cousins” among themselves… I know one school where I would not want to study.
The work place is actually a mixed bag. I have received rumors that the freshers’ batch that recently entered the corporate campus has celebrated the festival with pomp and splendor. And apparently there have been a couple of guys who sacrificed themselves to the chains of “brotherly love” for the general good of humanity. God bless the noble souls.
The smart guys are staying away from the canteen to avoid the glimpse of anything that is silvery and shiny..
And to depict the mood of the moment, I am attaching an awesome picture below.
No! it’s not Janmashtami, It’s the setting of Raksha Bandhan…
As usual well narrated and the points presented are very true..But should we believe the disclaimer;-)
And which that management school??
@ramya:
Cigarette Packs have disclaimers too.. To believe them is the reader's discretion ;)
same here man no need for the disclaimer. yes ofcourse it is a good post.
hahaha! When I was in college...a gal from my class tied rakhi to a guy from my class...eventually they started dating in a years time...moved into the same house...and now they have broken up and chosent their ways...but the point we made in our college is that...Rakhi needs to be RENEWED! if not renewed then it can expire and two ppl bonded by rakhi love can fall in love!!
Make sense? ya that was rakhi during our days...
When i was in school the Rakhi was more a very interesting way of getting rid of unwanted attention of some of the more boisterous male elements in class by the seedhi saadhi girls:))
nice post.. I too had 2 rakhi brothers in school.. but then no more...
nice one!
- jyothi prasad
You never know. Maybe the Chennai grads refer to each other in the same vein as the CIA refers to the MIB; for the MIB, the CIA officers are the Cousins, while they themselves are the Friends for the CIA.
But then, very well drafted piece. Especially enjoyed the beautiful manner in which you have mapped the transition from pride to actual despair on receipt of rakhis. Keep up the good work.
@akash: thanks buddy..
@anu: very valid point anu..rakhi comes with an expiry date..lol
@havocke: yes bro, with the macho body that you have you were anyway not going to attract attention [:D]
@ art:
no more ? :o no more brothers or no more? if it is the latter, iam sorry :(
@joe: thank u joe :)
@vivek: thanks for the trivia buddy..that was a good analogy..guess that could be true for the guys in the "forced rakhis" relationship :)
oh yes!!
i had tied rakhi to a lotta guys in school!! used to get tons and tons of chocolates u know!! [well!! that was the intention too) lolz.. :)) but 1 or 2 of them actually proposed to me later on... *sighs*
these days, i send rakhi only to my brother.. my own brother and no one else.. sorta feel, rakhi might lose its meaning..
-yash
Grt post.... the pic is really hilarious...